A shopaholic's best friend

A few days ago my best friend left for Dubai. I would say that in my entire life I have never cried as much for a friend as I did with him but then, I knew in my heart that I would never find somebody like him. A few days have passed and I am still grieving, tortured by memories of us together laughing in this and that place. My workplace alone commands so much memories of us making fun of our work,the disdain drowned by laughter, of us eating lunch together and so many more things. I pass by familiar places where we were once and i hold back tears knowing it will be a while before we even go to that particular place again. In many many ways he made my life happier, troubles easier to bear with him listening and giving advice and he also gave me confidence that my ideas and advice are worth listening to.

He taught me a lot of things, how to be generous and how to be forgiving by example. He showed me the kind of love that I was ignorant and deprived of , the love of a child for a parent. I am continuously amazed by the strength and compassion of his character. He has shown me courage too that while he continues to fight his personal battles his faith in God has never wavered.

He has the power to turn my frown into a smile, my tears into laughter, my sorrows into happiness. Indeed I have found a very unique relationship, though not bound by blood or kinship is stronger with unconditional love.

I was able to tell him things I would not have dared tell anybody. He knows me inside out and has never judged me .He shows me his true person. I know a lot of things about him that other people don't see as much as I do. He is very sweet, caring and very protective. What's amazing too is that we always try to outdo each other in giving . When he does something for me I always think about what to give him next and he does the same .We could fight without being mad at each other (how weird is that ?) and we could both say anything , anything at all to each other. Words unspoken we would look at each other and know what the other is thinking most especially at work before when we wanted to say something that is not appropriate for other people to hear or when we're being nasty about something.

Most of the time when we are walking to somewhere we lose our way because we are deep in conversation. I think one characteristic of a good friend is to be a good listener. We both listened without judgement, only understanding. Upon reading Dr. Norman Peale's book , The Power of Positive Thinking, he said that as a pastor he has often observed how much it means to people to have someone to whom they can truly and in confidence tell everything troubling their minds . I guess that is why we both mean so much to each other.

I've met his family twice and it only proves that the best foundation a person can get is in the home. They are wonderful people and it is evident where he got his character. When I entered their home all I felt was warmth and welcome and to this day I will never stop thanking them for making me feel so at home and a part of their family as well.

In any relationship be at a marriage, a friendship or within the family the most important aspect would be respect apart from love . It seems to me one cannot exist without the other. I have seen marriages dissolved , friendships broken just because there lacks respect for one or the other. We have always regarded each other with respect no matter what. In the highest esteem I look upon him . We know our limits and boundaries. We know the things we ought and not ought to say to each other. We both know when to be silent.

I truly miss him and I will continue to do so until he comes back. He is always reassuring me that modern times do allow us to keep in touch via real time through chat and we can always call each other but I still miss his presence and the thought that we can see each other anytime. I am praying hard that one day soon he will be able to come home with all his goals fulfilled.

I am writing this in celebration of a great friendship. A lifetime could pass and you could never find one that is why I consider myself very lucky . I have not been very fortunate with my parents and family during my younger years but now I am blessed with my own family and a true friend.

By God's grace may you reach your dreams KJT. You know who you are . I believe in you and what you can do . Continue to be God fearing and grow in your faith. You know all that I wish for you is only for the best and most of all may God bless you with peace in your heart. I love you bestfriend!